& Susan had been married for 12 years when out of
the blue, Bob announced to Sue that for the last 6 months,
he had been involved in another relationship and he
had now made the decision to leave the matrimonial home
in order to live with another woman. She was devastated,
confused and frightened, particularly when she tried
to give some thought as to how financial matters between
them would be resolved and also the situation in relation
to their 2 children who were aged 6 and 8.
and Bob had been living separately for approximately 2 months.
Bob was becoming very concerned that his contact with the
children was very limited mainly as a result of the reluctance
on Sue's part to speak and discuss matters with him. Bob
at that time was considering consulting a Solicitor to enable
him to have his own legal rights explained to him but at the
same time, was very concerned as to how much this would
inevitably cost him.
few days later, Bob received a letter from Solicitors consulted
by Sue informing him that they had been given instructions by
Sue to commence Divorce Proceedings.
had made a general visit to see her GP and whilst in the waiting
room, noticed a leaflet giving details in relation to a local
Mediation Practice. The leaflet explained that Mediation
was for divorcing and separating couples and the aim was to
attempt to resolve issues both in relation to child matters and
also financial matters without the need for Court Proceedings.
On her return home, Sue telephoned the Mediation Practice, asked
for more details and then via her Solicitor, asked if Bob would
be prepared to attempt Mediation.
agreed and on their first visit, the Mediator explained to them
that each Mediation Appointment would last between an hour and a
half and 2 hours and if there were problems in relation to the
children and financial matters to be resolved then they may
required between 4 and 6 Session of Mediation. The process
began and indeed, after 3 Sessions of Mediation, Bob and Sue had
reached an agreement as to the level of contact which Bob would
have with the children and also reached agreement as to the
holiday contact which Bob would have with them and they had also
successfully managed to reach an agreement in relation to
it was difficult for both Bob and Sue in the early stages
of Mediation, both felt that the whole process had been
less painful than if the matter had been conducted over
a period of time by Solicitors and also had the matter
proceeded through the Court process. Both were
more than delighted with the fact that although they
had paid privately for the Mediation Service, by comparison
with the level of legal fees which they had both been
quoted, a huge saving had been made by both which inevitably
meant that the matrimonial pot had remained much larger.
and Sue would definitely say that there were benefits all round
with regard to Mediation, particularly for the children.